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July 07, 2005
Thinking about today

I've been watching the news all day, feeling sick to my stomach over the loss of life and injuries caused by today's attacks on London. To be honest, I've been tuning out all the discussion of Al Qaeda and terrorist cells and suicide bombing. I'm sick and tired of listening to the talking heads go around and around about it. All I can think about are the people. The people on the buses and trains and in their cars and on the streets - people who were killed and injured and scared out of their minds. I think about families receiving phone calls that can cause relief or complete and utter despair. I can't stop thinking about that.

I understand that terrorism is meant to instill intense fear in people - to unnerve them to the point of immobility - to weaken the human spirit. I understand that the "experts" say that the best way to "fight" terrorism is to go about one's life as normal, showing the terrorists that we can't be beaten down; we can't be broken. It all makes perfect sense to me.

Until I think about the fact that the person I love most in this world rides the Metro into Washington, DC every day and if anything ever happened to him, I don't know what I'd do. I don't want him riding the Metro to work, I don't want him riding the Metro at lunch, and I don't want him riding the Metro home. Maybe it makes me a bad American and maybe the terrorists have broken me, but fuck. It terrifies the hell out of me to think the worst - and I can't help but think about it. Not because the terror alert has been raised for mass transit systems in the U.S., and not because I'm paranoid. Not because I've been watching footage of London all day and not because of 9/11, and yet it's because of all of it and more.

Everything about this has me in a knot today. Anyone have any words of wisdom or comfort on the topic?

Posted by Danielle at 05:55 PMComments (5)
Comments

Crap. A plea for wisdom, with 'Comments (0)'

I don't know that I have wisdom. My heart hurts a little right now, after today's events. And people I love ride DC's Metro almost every day. I even rode it with them a couple of weeks ago, happy to be there with them.

But the truth is that we don't know when a tragedy is going to happen. Whether it's a planned attack or a heart attack... there are moments in our lives that change everything. We don't know when they are going to happen... and we can't always adequately prepare for them.

So don't.

Live your life. Love with all your heart. Enjoy the now. Gaze at the Charlie Brown trees and the cats that pee in sinks and the man you love... and enjoy every second of it. Every moment of it.

And that advice happens to work whether you have decades of time left... or (god forbid) not much time at all.

So stop reading my long-ass comment and go enjoy your life.

Wishing you all the best,
Ann

Posted by ann at July 7, 2005 11:48 PM

i completely understand how you feel, trusting loved ones to mass transit (although i'd be more worried about DC's crime rate than terrorism). my best advice is to always let people know how much you love them (along with what worries you), and know that they make their own choices and you can only control so much.

naturally, though, i NEVER follow my own advice. :o)

Posted by alice at July 8, 2005 01:20 AM

I love your long-ass comment, Ann! This is the kind of thing I tell people all the time, but like Alice, I never follow my own advice. Thanks for reminding me to listen to myself once in a while!

Posted by Danielle at July 8, 2005 09:58 AM

I had to think about this for a bit...my Grandmother was raised Christian Science (totally different then Scientology - just to clarify!)...and one of Mary Baker Eddy's famous qoutes was, "Stand guard at the portale of your mind and take in only that which is good..." - OK I paraphrased and I don't totally agree with her but what I take from that is sometimes we need to gaurd against overload of negative information that doesn't "truly" affect our lives. What happened in London was beyond horrible but we must not take it on or let it in to the extent that it
hurts us deeply...so my advice - and I took it myself yesterday - turn off the t.v.

You own your mind, heart and soul and you determine what gets in and what matters...don't turn that over to anyone!! Especially not CNN or al-Qaida.

Posted by Annie at July 8, 2005 11:03 AM

Thanks, Annie. And you're absolutely right. Once I turned off the TV, I did get a little more perspective.

And yes, I will continue to travel and take public transportation and live my life without fear because god knows I did that long enough and I'm not going back.

My thoughts on the subject today?

Fuck you, terrorists. Fuck. You.

Posted by Danielle at July 8, 2005 11:11 AM

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